How do I know that Parent Collaboration will help?
Parent Collaboration provides a safe space to explore the skills, education and tools to create a workable collaborative relationship between parents. A lot depends on the parents’ commitment to accept new ideas, tools and personal changes in the interest of their children.
The process has helped countless other parents stuck in patterns of conflict. The more you work to change yourself and your communication patterns for the benefit of your kids, the better you’ll feel about yourself and your parenting.
How do I know the other parent will cooperate with the process?
Unless there’s a court appointment, you can’t guarantee the other parent will participate. Part of the power of Parent Collaboration is coming to grips with the idea that you must both focus on the child and let go of trying to control the other parent’s behavior. That’s not always easy. But it’s always necessary. Most parents come because they love their children and they recognize that what they have been doing is not working well. So they come under their own steam—so to speak. Of their own choice. Parenting Collaboration includes structures and skills to create and sustain safety and respect in the co-parenting relationship. Essentially, parents learn how to treat their co-parenting relationship more as a business than a personal relationship. It’s not an extension of your marriage; it’s a whole new relationship.
What is the role of attorneys in Parent Collaboration?
Parents’ attorneys often recommend Parent Collaboration to their clients as an alternative to continued costly legal proceedings. Court battles are destructive to co-parenting and parent-child relationships and chew up needed family resources. Preferably, both parents and their attorneys agree on the choice of a co-parenting professional. The other option is for the court to appoint one after a hearing. Either way, your attorneys prepare an order appointing the co-parenting professional in the role of Parenting Coordinator or Parenting Facilitator and present it to the court for approval.